You have to dig deep. You have to keep searching. Don't settle for what is easy. Don't allow the lazy mind to win. Follow your gut. It sounds contrived but you know when something isn't right. You feel it. Trust it. Keep believing there is more to be found. Don't settle for lukewarm. Give me red hot or ice cold, not that wishy washy middle ground. Push. Irk. Prod. Make waves. Waves allow other people to go surfing. When you keep digging you find gold, but remember all that glitters isn't gold.
The moment you get angry is the moment you lose your balance. Anger distorts your perspective. Anger makes up stories in your head. Anger gives your power away. Anger makes you more angry. No battle, argument, discussion ever is resolved through anger. Only when the anger subsides can there be a resolution, although often things that were said in anger still linger like a bad smell. You can't fight fire with fire. You can't protest for peace with anger. What you resist persists. What are we all so angry about anyway?
Whatever we identify with, we experience. Identity though is a choice. We choose what we believe in and then we decide what that means to us and how it is going to make us feel. Then we deny all knowledge of this as being our choice just so that we can go through the process of learning once again to remember who we really are. It's the ultimate cosmic game of hide and seek.
When Talking Heads sang 'we're on a road to nowhere' back in the 1980's, everyone danced along merrily. Since then lead singer David Byrne has galvanised his place in rock history but also proven his metal with regards to enlightening the human condition. Turns out when he sang those words back in the day, he actually meant it. What if he's right and there is no 'destination'? What if those people who say that it's all about the journey are right? What if you reach your destination and it still isn't enough? There is only one way that I know to beat the 'what ifs' and that is to try and remain as present as possible as often as possible....Read More
There are no rules. There's no path. You don't need to find your purpose before you can start to finally live. Don't read too many books, attend too many seminars. Don't believe those people that tell you they are enlightened. Don't believe there is even enlightenment. All of that just adds weight and concepts to strive towards, taking you away from this moment. This moment. This NOW. How is it? Is there tiredness? Anger? Irritation? Joy? Warmth? Cold? Impatience? Just be aware of it, without judgement. Don't push it away, don't try and hold on to it. That, if anything, is your path, your purpose, your enlightenment. This moment, then this moment, now this moment. All the rest of it...Read More
Barcelona, London, Paris, Nantes, Manchester. The attacks keep coming. The fear, the anger, the hurt, the pain and the suffering keeps on growing. In the aftermath of these evil attacks, political and religious leaders all over the world will offer their sincere condolences and make bold statements about staying strong and not letting fear win. And for a while this show of positivity and strength will make us feel a little better, but soon enough we come to realise that nothing has changed and nothing likely will. I don't want to go into depth regarding conspiracy theories of how the political and religious organisations and institutions may have a vested interest in maintaining the 'status quo'. What is most valuable...Read More
Act as if. That's what my good friend and mentor used to tell me. It basically is another way of saying fake it until you make it, but it works. For most people they wait until they have perfected their product, completed their novel, gained enough life experience before they put themselves out there. They rarely get there, many wait forever. Starting is the biggest and hardest step of all but once you've started you can build momentum, gain experience, learn lessons, perfect and hone things along the way. If you don't start you are already behind in the game. Act as if you know the eventual desired outcome and draw it to you. Get out there, hustle, listen, learn,...Read More
Life is too short just may be the oldest, most overused and yet ineffective cliche of all time. We all say it. We all say it a lot. Usually we say it after we experience or hear of difficult or sad events. We use it as a way to motivate ourselves to then go and make the most of our lives - knowing just how uncertain and limited our time on this planet is. But then we quickly forget. We revert back to our ordinary lives and much of the impact and intent of having said those four words when we did fades away until the next time. But if life is too short is correct, there may not be...Read More
What are we doing here? This is literally the multi-million dollar question and what is more if you say this sentence emphasising a different word each time, every one makes the question take on a completely different meaning. WHAT are we doing here? What ARE we doing here? What are WE doing here? What are we DOING here? What are we doing HERE? Which one of the above questions irks you the most? That's the one you need to look into more then. For me it is 'what ARE we doing here?' Basically what is our purpose? Why do we exist? What are our lives about? Is there any meaning? Is there a greater purpose? I've been seeing a lot...Read More
If you are looking for scientific analysis or a deeply profound and spiritual explanation as to mindfulness and meditation, forget it. Sorry. Wrong blog. The good news for you is there are literally thousands of blogs and books that will provide you with an understanding of mindfulness as dry as a mouthful of Jacob’s crackers and more up their own ass than an enema. If you stay with me though I am going to come at this subject in the most simple and ordinary way, the only way I know how. Spoken or written in ordinary language (read in a Mancunian accent for total accuracy), using ordinary words but with the ultimate aim of helping to make a difference as we...Read More